Guys, I apologize for egging on about this whole manners thing. My etiquette and Botox articles were/are taking a while to complete, hence, the fixation in decorum (and frowning).While doing research, I came across this quote:
"Being married does not give you freedom to ignore your manners."
I got reminded of how, at the airport a few months ago, I noticed a woman snapping at her husband for apparently not finding something in her purse. Immediately I promised myself, "I will never treat my husband that way." The woman, by the way, later on happily leaned against her spouse's arm while waiting for boarding. All the more I was struck by the prospect of treating A. with respect…consistently. For if someone is capable of giving you love and comfort, it's only proper to reciprocate by being mindful of how you treat that person.
Now, the challenge here—and why I'm even writing about this—is that I come from a family whose members are known to be impatient, impulsive, and quick to anger…including myself. There lies the importance of the aforementioned resolution....and again, I make that promise to be my best.
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This is great, Mariel! In case you haven't read it yet, there's this really good book that I read that talked all about this. It's called Love and Respect (I reviewed it here: http://lizclaudio.wordpress.com/2009/09/17/love-and-respect-by-dr-emerson-eggerichs/) --I think it's a must-read for married couples! :)
ReplyDeleteOoh! Thanks, Liz! I'll check it out :)
ReplyDeleteHaha ano ba, I've gotten so used to visiting your site daily that I keep coming back even when your 30day challenge is done na! Now that's "creating a habit!" :)
ReplyDeleteLooking forward to your post-30dayblogchallenge posts. :)
Thanks, Riz! I know, right? It's really ideal to blog everyday, but I did indulge in a mini-vacation (offline) this weekend. I do have blog posts lined up...mostly wedding-relate—hopefully not boring!—c/o recent events.
ReplyDeletei understand what u are saying here... i grew up to squabbling parents too, and i see myself becoming like my mom sometimes but in the last years i have endeavored to be more patient... more understanding... more selfless...
ReplyDeletei promise myself to submit to my husband and to leave everything (all my arguments) to God. and you know what??? it works... i am not married yet, but i am soon to be married... and i really promise to be more patient and more loving. will hold the mouth and all the words that wish to come out of it... :)
Hi, Crickette! Thanks for dropping by here :) I was just over by your blog and enjoyed reading (especially the post on teeth!) About your comment, you know the thing I noticed about "picking your battles," is that when you do get upset about something meaningful, your partner listens better and takes it more seriously. CONGRATS on your engagement!
ReplyDeleteYes, the saying, "Familiarity breeds contempt" is often sadly too true. I always have to remind myself to say things like "please" and "thank you" to Vince. He does the same. I believe our being polite and considerate of each other contributes a LOT to our happy marriage. I'm glad you see that as well for your own, neighbor!
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